A lover or ex-lover's friend....friend or a no no?

Why so many rules?...There are rules for dating, rules in love, rules in attempting to attain someone (AKA: The Game) and rules for the aftermath of a relationship. (This will definitely become a 3 part post but for now) What I really want to know is what are the rules about relationship's friends??
What I mean is, during a relationship, courtship or dating you tend to combine worlds. In getting to know one another's worlds you often seem to combine and mix (and get "lost in the sauce" as they say) and befriend your lover's friends in an absolutely non sexual way. In the midst of all this you are conflicted because you find that you share a very special connection with them...is it ok to befriend and maintain a friendship (separate from that of your relationship) when the friend happens to be a friend of your lover or ex lover?

Does anyone know what the rules to being a friend to your lover's or ex lover's friend are and who created these rules if they do in fact exist?

If we really want to get "lost in the sauce" I can say that the universe unites souls that are connected for whatever reason. It may be that the universe ensures that throughout our lifetime we eventually surround ourselves with souls that will add to our being and add to our unique selves. I could also say it in more Earthly terms: Sometimes we may be seeing someone but find a friend of theirs to be such cool person or such a great energy to be around that we enjoy their company, their ideas and/or their thoughts. Is that wrong? Is it in bad form or etiquette to do so? If done to you would it make you feel uncomfortable? Such a sticky situation no? You definitely do not want to make anyone feel strange including yourself.Is it possible to maintain a great friendship with a friend of your lover or a ex lover....and more importantly is that allowed? You tell me....

Communication...is there an app for that or is that prehistoric?

Here's the truth:
I'm walking to the store... they're on their cell phones.
I'm driving and she almost hits my car... she's on her cell phone.
She wants to know more about her spouse...there's an app for that.
You wanna find a date, get a kiss, leave town, find out when the next episode is on, check Facebook, Myspace, write a post on Twitter, find out the exact location of someone (to the point where you can see their home and not through a map but an actual live photo)...you name it, you got...there's an app for that.
You can do it all through an app or just directly through your phone.

Now while you may be feeling excited at the thought of this and thinking how cool it is that we are in the future, have you ever stopped to think for a sec that this future is starting to set us back. I'm not trying to sound like our parents complaining about gadgets but I must honestly say I can't remember when was the last time I had a straight 1 hour conversation with another human being in which we devoted our full attention to one another without for one second checking our phones, downloading a ring tone, or txting.
Whatever happened to a conversation?...You know, the prehistoric means of exchanging ideas and goals or just simply bitching about life. Where did that go? With all these superficial conversations and drinking and smoking and who knows what else, how much do you really know about someone? How much can you say you really like someone if half the time your stoned, drunk, or paying attention to whatever technological gadgets are in your surroundings? Don't get me wrong, some things are amazing or more so exciting. I get excited as well to see touch screen this and 3D that's and video games that move to your movements. It's only natural that it would be fascinating to us because it is something absolutely new and unique. But the way we communicate with one another as human beings now a days, having a lengthy conversation in which you exchange genuine ideas, thoughts, worries or angst would be the true unique thing.
So true communication...is there an app for that or is that all prehistoric?

Imagine ...

Imagine a small place...
Sunny, bright, breezy.
A place surrounded with views of the vast ocean. Imagine a place where people smile and not just a smile but their smile fills you with joy, it enters your soul and uplifts you. A place where people live to LIVE; to touch, smell, taste, experience, feel. A place where people are connected to their ancestors not by history books or by the images in these books but by powerful songs and tastes and food so exquisitely delectable that with each bite you are transported to the very core, the very center of your senses and the center of years of tradition and love. A place where the rhythmic patterns of the Congas infuse your heart with the will to want to live and STAND UP and run and explore. In this place music is life and this music encompasses your stories, your day to day struggles and your happiness. Imagine being able to smell happiness, to dive into a cool river in the middle of true life itself and feel like happiness is endless.
If you can truly imagine this place, then you are in my Puerto Rico.
...and I'm missing my home!