Why so many rules?...There are rules for dating, rules in love, rules in attempting to attain someone (AKA: The Game) and rules for the aftermath of a relationship. (This will definitely become a 3 part post but for now) What I really want to know is what are the rules about relationship's friends??
What I mean is, during a relationship, courtship or dating you tend to combine worlds. In getting to know one another's worlds you often seem to combine and mix (and get "lost in the sauce" as they say) and befriend your lover's friends in an absolutely non sexual way. In the midst of all this you are conflicted because you find that you share a very special connection with them...is it ok to befriend and maintain a friendship (separate from that of your relationship) when the friend happens to be a friend of your lover or ex lover?
Does anyone know what the rules to being a friend to your lover's or ex lover's friend are and who created these rules if they do in fact exist?
If we really want to get "lost in the sauce" I can say that the universe unites souls that are connected for whatever reason. It may be that the universe ensures that throughout our lifetime we eventually surround ourselves with souls that will add to our being and add to our unique selves. I could also say it in more Earthly terms: Sometimes we may be seeing someone but find a friend of theirs to be such cool person or such a great energy to be around that we enjoy their company, their ideas and/or their thoughts. Is that wrong? Is it in bad form or etiquette to do so? If done to you would it make you feel uncomfortable? Such a sticky situation no? You definitely do not want to make anyone feel strange including yourself.Is it possible to maintain a great friendship with a friend of your lover or a ex lover....and more importantly is that allowed? You tell me....
1 comment:
Yes, to me, it's most definitely allowed. Majority of the time, people meet people through other people. It's completely ok to be a good friend of a person you met through a lover/ex-lover. If your lover is not ok with it, your lover is a very insecure person and that's a red flag for that relationship.
And if a friend of mine were to become really good friends with a lover or ex-lover, I would be completely ok with it. As long as you are a secure person who surrounds yourself with people who have great morals and who inspire, then you'll figure out how to navigate through the people that life brings to you. And it won't be so scary to let people in and out of your life as you journey through it :)
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